Many of us have experienced times in our lives that were impacted by forms of suicide. Whether the impact is suicidal thoughts of those who are around us, or the hopelessness people feel in their dark situations. It may have been that you are grieving a loved one who has lost the fight against suicidal ideation. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), suicide in the United States is the 12th leading cause of death. It is all around us, and it can become very hard to detect. For those who experience depression and suicidal thoughts, I hope that this article will help you feel seen and realize that you are not alone.
“My bed has become an anchor, and yet my thoughts are restless.”
One of the common signs of depression is a decrease in energy level and the feeling of fatigue. Those who are depressed will most likely have a lack of motivation to do activities that they would normally find enjoyable. Other daily responsibilities may also become limited due to the lack of energy. Moreover, those struggling with depression find it hard to brush their hair, take a shower, engage in daily chores, or be social with loved ones. The constant feeling of depletion can be a signal for depression and suicidal ideation. However, not everyone who has depression is suicidal, and not everyone who is suicidal has depression.
“I am better off dead because I am a burden to those around me.”
Many individuals who struggle with thoughts of ending their life will typically have frequent beliefs that they are better off dead or that they do not matter. If you or a loved one begins to have thoughts like these, it can be a warning sign of something deeper.
What do I do if I see these warning signs?
One of the best things that a person can do when encountering a loved one with these signs is to actively listen to them. Creating a posture of “I hear you, and I believe you” is one of the most important healing components. Additionally, consider the following steps:
- Has the person had thoughts of ending their life? (Asking these questions directly will not further plant the idea in their head)
- Does the person have a plan? Has the person gotten the means to carry out the plan?
- If there is a belief that the person is actively suicidal: Call 988 or go to the local emergency room. There will be a further assessment and additional services if needed.
- If you or someone you know is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, consider seeking treatment or counseling. You deserve to have support.
There are no strict patterns to follow when encountering suicidal thoughts, but it is important to take every comment or symptom seriously. You never know when you might end up saving a life.
If you or someone you know needs someone to talk to, Gabby (and our other counselors) are here to listen! Please call us at 269-331-2402 or contact us online. You matter!
Gabby Maddox, Counseling Intern
Additional Resources:
- A Comprehensive Guide – How to Support a Loved One Struggling with Depression
- The Role of Counseling in Suicide Prevention, How Therapy Can Make a Difference
- Stories of Hope and Recovery, Inspiring Journeys from Surviving to Thriving
- Supporting a Loved One Through Trauma: Tips for Families
- Coping with Anxiety: Strategies for a Stressful World
