Growing as a Leader: Influence, Empathy, and Purpose in Everyday Leadership Life

Everyday Leadership is about fostering growth and connection in our communities.

There are many things I am passionate about, and one at the top of the list is using our local library system. Libraries are welcoming spaces to find helpful resources, connect with others, and support personal growth. If you have never visited the Lake Odessa Community Library, you may be surprised to discover that it is attached to a locally owned donut and coffee shop. For me, a Saturday morning might include a library visit, a cup of strong coffee, and time outdoors walking, cycling, or running.

The Thornapple Kellogg Library is located right inside the TK High School building—fun fact: it is the only public library in Michigan located within a school. The library offers children’s story hours, summer reading programs, book sales, and free computer access for patrons.

Another local gem is the Freeport District Library, which includes a donation-based book area where visitors can take home books for a small voluntary contribution. It was there that I discovered Help! I Work with People by Chad Veach—a book that offers practical insight for anyone who leads, mentors, or works closely with others.

Everyday Leadership Happens in Everyday Roles

One of the most important reminders from Veach’s book is that leadership is not limited to job titles. Many people lead in meaningful ways without being called a boss or manager.

• A parent raising and guiding children
• An experienced worker who models quality and consistency
• A volunteer or church member serving others
• A student athlete leading a team
• A counselor, teacher, advisor, or healthcare provider

Each of these roles carries influence, responsibility, and the opportunity to positively impact others.

Feeling Called to Grow? Start with Small, Clear Goals

Some people feel stuck in their current career or role because they are not fully using their strengths to guide or support others. If you have ever felt called to “something more,” but aren’t sure what that looks like yet, you are not alone.

In my previous blog, we discussed the SMART goal setting method—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely—as a way to create meaningful and lasting change. Leadership growth works the same way: small, steady steps can lead to significant progress over time.

Strong Leaders Listen First

One of the most powerful leadership skills is listening. It means giving people your full attention, building trust, and creating a safe space for honest communication.

Many clients—especially adolescents—are surprised that a counselor genuinely wants to listen and care for someone they have just met. In reality, listening and caring are central to the work.

Everyone wants to be:

• Seen
• Heard
• Respected
• Valued

Empathy vs. Sympathy: What’s the Difference?

Empathy means trying to understand another person’s experience and responding with care and compassion. Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone without fully understanding their point of view.

In all helping professions, the goal is to treat others the way we would want to be treated—with compassion, attention, and respect.

Why We Do the Work Matters

At White Oak Counseling & Recovery, our counselors and support staff share a common purpose: to serve others with empathy, professionalism, and integrity.

There are policies and ethical standards that guide how we do our work. But the deeper motivation—the reason why we do this work—is personal and meaningful.

Each member of our team brings their own story, strengths, and experiences into the counseling relationship. When people use their natural strengths to serve others and work toward meaningful goals, they often experience greater fulfillment and long-term success.

Taking the Next Step in Your Leadership Journey

If you feel like you are not reaching your full potential, identifying and setting goals can be a powerful first step.

• Clarify your strengths and values
• Set meaningful personal or career goals
• Strengthen leadership and mentoring skills
• Improve communication and relationships
• Build confidence and direction for the future

We’re Here to Help

If you are interested in learning more about goal setting, career planning, leadership development, or improving your overall quality of life, our team at White Oak Counseling & Recovery is here to support you.

Click to contact our office today to get started.

Brenda Gonyou
MA, LLPC